There’s a lot that needs discussing right now.
My name is Laurie Smithwick and I’m in a privileged place: I’m a white woman in and from the south with views that all arc toward love. It’s time to figure out how to use those powers to effect change. This is but a humble start, but I want to talk with you about why #LoveIsLove and how very much #BlackLivesMatter.
I was born and raised in North Carolina, and I live there now (having lived in many different cities and countries along the way). Therefore I have known, since childhood, many people who are struggling with SCOTUS Marriage Equality decision.
These friends are not bad people. Quite the contrary. They are very kind, loving, good people whose beliefs and in-depth study of the bible haven’t led them to the same conclusion I have arrived at: that all people should be able to marry the person they love, free from our judgment.
If you identify yourself as somebody I have described above, yet consider yourself kind and open-minded, I would like to invite you to reach out to me privately so we can talk. I would love to engage in a frank, friendly, non-social-media infected conversation about marriage equality to see where we might be able to find some commonality in the polarizing SCOTUS ruling. I know you probably feel ganged up on right now. (Facebook is a pretty liberal place. My whole feed is filled with rainbows — I’ll bet yours is too.) But I assure you that is not my intent. I do not wish to bully you into feeling the way I feel. I just want to talk and hear your side, and take the opportunity to share my views.
If you’re interested, please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org
I’m a white woman who has always believed she isn’t racist.
I’ve been silent when I should have spoken up.
I’ve talked when I should have listened.
I’ve judged when I should have stood in your shoes.
I’ve assumed when I should have observed.
I’ve known things were wrong and not worked to right them.
I’ve felt complacent when I should have shown concern.
I’ve allowed you and your family to bear the burden of racism for too long. I’m so sorry.
I respect you. And I believe deep down in my soul that black lives matter. I want to help. I want to listen. I want to talk. Please reach out to me at email@example.com and let’s figure out how to change things.
Photo by Karen Walrond.